Have you ever felt taken advantage of, or dismissed, by a partner, family member, or boss? That’s resentment rearing its ugly head.
At first, you feel angry that you’re not being treated fairly or that your needs are being ignored. Over time, this snowballs into irritation, disappointment, and hard feelings.
A lot of people view resentment as a less-advanced, low-level form of anger.
But it turns out, it’s not about anger. It’s part of the ‘envy’ family.
Resentment is a silent emotion. When it outwardly manifests itself, it usually does so through passive aggression.
Example: Partner puts feet up, as you start to clean the kitchen for the third time today. Resentment floods in.
Typically, a thought pattern might follow: “That person should be doing… ” or “They don’t care about me because…“
But, with envy in mind, instead, you could say: “What do I need, but am afraid to ask for?“
“I’m not mad at you because you are resting, I’m mad at you because I’m exhausted, I feel unable to not care about the mess, and I don’t know how to admit to you that I need help.”
Communication gets a lot easier if we fully understand what our needs are.
Asking for what we need is not a selfish act. It actually enriches our life.
If you’re ready to improve your relationships and feel more confident in expressing yourself and your needs, book a call with a More Happi coach.
